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always home and uncool

Screw that! My kids' teachers and the three who run their afterschool program get gift cards for the nearby Borders Books.

Crazy Computer Dad

Just wait until your daughter gets to middle school! The first parent teacher conference I had with my son's teachers this year had like 10 teachers and staff in it.

Do we just give gifts now instead of our time? To me...money and gifts say I contributed, conversation and time says I care. I would certainly rather spend time with my friends than to get gifts from them.

Crazy Computer Dad

Just wait until your daughter gets to middle school! The first parent teacher conference I had with my son's teachers this year had like 10 teachers and staff in it.

Do we just give gifts now instead of our time? To me...money and gifts say I contributed, conversation and time says I care. I would certainly rather spend time with my friends than to get gifts from them.

misfithausfrau

I wish that this was an isolated problem, but it isn't. We have a "class Mom" for Ella's kindergarten class who essentially decides what gift to give the teacher and the aides and I just write the check. I am absolutely REFUSING to tip the paperdude because he never actually delivers our paper (but managed to deliver an envelope for a tip). I felt like I was going to be held hostage if I didn't tip my cleaning ladies, so I did (for the record, they could totally kick my ass). I have no idea what to do for my other daughter's daycare. I can't keep track of the number of teachers and assistants that teach her daily. I am thinking of buying them a tray of cookies because I am afraid of singling any of them out, for fear that I am going to "forget" one of them.

Be strong--don't tip if you don't feel like it. You can't be the only one in NYC feeling this way!

Kara

Oh yeah- that was one of things that always caught me by surprise when I was living in Boston. As someone in the edumacation trade, I will say, on behalf of all teachers, that nobody wants food gifts or coffee mugs. I usually end up with a haul of Starbucks and Barnes and Noble gift cards that gets me through summer. I have more mugs than I could ever use in my lifetime, and the food ends up being thrown away- harsh, but true.

A sincere, hand-written note is worth way more than any token gift. Many parents give nothing at all and that's okay, too. We only beat the children of stingy parents a little more than the rest.

If you're feeling you must contribute, gift cards for Dunkin' Donuts or Starbucks (or B&N or Target or Amazon) are not only useful but also appreciated by people who don't make a zillion dollars a year. In the end, teachers are doing what they're paid to do and don't need a "tip."

AltJ

You, my friend, are the only sane one. I too am happy to "get something for someone if I like them or they've somehow directly made our lives better."
I also am happy to give to someone in need.

I really don't want to give to those that expect it. I feel it is my duty to help bring them back to reality.

WCG

I used to get gifts from a few students each year in elementary school. It was a nice thought even though most were useless. But, an amerylis plant that could actually become a learning experience as the children watched it grow (They should be under $10) or a small box of Russell Stover candy was always a hit. I never sent anyone but the teacher a gift and it was usually cookies. When they reach junior high, they didn't want to even give the teacher a card. Not cool. Give because you want to give, not because you have to (except to your parents) :-)

the weirdgirl

$100 is crazy!! My preschool is much easier than this; usually one parent sends a discreet note to all the other parents asking for $20 IF you want to participate. Then we all sign the cards and the teachers get a wad of cash. I'm also making small jewelry gifts for the teachers (because I have all the supplies already AND my son is a handful), and I'm taking in a plate of fudge, but only because the directors were hinting for some fudge.

I think the only other people getting anything are my cleaning lady and my drum teacher. Again, it's food. It's cheap, handmade, and let's me bypass the whole "appropriate tip" debate. Plus, they both love chocolate.

TheOtherCW

Dude, I used to give my teachers presents. Little paper chalkboards that I made at daycare with popsicle sticks and construction paper. They loved them. We all know teachers don't get paid enough, but they don't get into the job for the pay and bonus'. They do it because they love working with the kids and teaching the next generation how to be good & smart people. Do you remember Mom every bringing money bags home from school at Christmas? I sure don't.

ilinap

I say home school and buy yourself something nice. Like a plasma TV to plant Cheeky in front of Noggin.

babbo

Well, if you give me holiday bonus I'll be happy to share my opinion!

I currently live in Wisconsin, but the first 38 years of my life were spent in NY. And I agree with you. Neuroses and the fear of being "outdone" seems to make people do stupid things.

Whatever happened to saying "thank you?" The real question at hand, is why does gratitude have to be dispensed in the form of cash? Or a fancy cheese platter?

Let's put it this way. If it weren't for my wife, I'd buy nothing for anybody (except my kids). It's just a bunch of stuff getting passed around (and often re-gifted) that costs money, which could be used for other things like FOOD!

I think people need to grow up and stop being so greedy/needy. If they want something, they can buy it for themselves...

Peace,

babbo

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Evan

I’m more than just a little iffy on the whole notion of Christmas/Holiday gifts for everyone that I may or may not have ever met; in fact, over time I’ve proven myself quite a curmudgeon... with two exceptions:

1: Teachers still get a little something because unlike some people we really appreciate leaf-gluing-skillz around here, and 2: I always give our garbage guys a bunch of cash if only because as near as I can figure they’re the only guys who not only work at what I’m assuming is a pretty crummy job that actually makes my life better, but they do it all year in all weather... and to top it off they’re even reasonably cheerful about it too.

Anyhow, other than that, yeah I’ll join the mob here: “Bah! Humbug! No soup for you!”

(Oh yeah, and great Dick link; I almost spit coffee everywhere when he popped up. Thanks. I think.)

TV Wall Brackets

Flat screen tv's are the best thing since sliced bread. I prefer plasma tv's over LCD. They have better picture quality and typically have a longer life.

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